How to get started with your wedding planning

A wedding is nothing more than a party.  Well, a really big party.  Probably bigger than you’ve ever planned if you’ve even ever planned one.  This can be really overwhelming, but hopefully we can help you out with a few tips!

  1. Take a deep breath.  First of all don’t panic.  Yes there’s a ton of work to do, but if you give yourself enough time, do enough pre planning, don’t procrastinate and ask for help when needed, this can be done.  Trust me!  Women have been planning weddings for millennia.
  2. Let’s be honest here.  Yes, I said women.  The bride generally shoulders the majority of responsibility for the wedding. If you are one of the lucky few, your groom may jump in with ideas and be interested in what you want for the wedding.  Some grooms have no interest at all.  This may or may not be a problem for you.  If it is a problem you need to talk things out with your groom-to-be and see if you can come up with a compromise.  At the very least, don’t be afraid to let him know that you need extra help and are feeling overwhelmed.  A groom’s job for a wedding is the same for a marriage: he should be jumping in to help where you are weak, comforting you when you are overwhelmed and generally showering you with adoration.  On the other hand, try not to get frustrated when he has no opinion on whether you should pick teal or peacock blue for your colors.
  3. Come up with a plan.  Buy a good wedding organizer and take it with you wherever you go.  You need to get and stay organized.  Write everything down, take notes, keep a pinterest page.  A good wedding organizer will walk you through an effective timeline of what you need to do when.  Notice how much time it says is necessary for a wedding and choose your wedding date appropriately.  If you pick less than 6 months you are going to be very stressed out. Less than a year and you will only be moderately stressed.  More than a year and you’ll be happy with your decision.
  4. Consider your budget.  And then raise it.  No seriously.  Good weddings are expensive. The average cost of a wedding last year was $45,000 in Southern California.  In San Bernardino county, it was $35,000.  What?!  I can hear you saying now.  I’m not spending that kind of money on a wedding.  I don’t want to spend more than ______ (fill in the blank)!  Whatever the price is, it’s probably less than what you will end up spending.  In our experience, if your budget is any less than $10k, you are going to have very high stress levels and a low quality wedding.  I hear so many people say that a wedding isn’t worth the cost, but let me tell you it is!  Research shows that the bigger your wedding the lower your chance of divorce. This probably isn’t actually about the amount of money you end up spending, but your commitment and excitement to start a new life together.
  5. Have fun. After you have a basic plan and budget, all that’s left is…everything lol.  But really this is the fun stuff!  You get to go cake tasting and food tasting and try on beautiful dresses and pin until 2am!  This is fun!  And if it isn’t, consider hiring a planner. They aren’t really expensive and why stress?  A few hundred dollars is worth lowering your stress and making your day beautiful.  Sometimes you just need to invest. After all, this is your ONE wedding.
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